My H blew off the face-to-face meeting he asked for w/o explanation. He didn't even call text or email to say he no longer wanted to meet up. He just didn't reply when I asked where we were supposed to meet. Weird and not like him. Part of me is worried something is wrong but the other part of me thinks even if something was wrong I'm not the person he wants in his life to help him anyways so there is no use fretting over his well being.

This is a good reminder to keep expectations at zero. It's so tempting to start cycling through what ifs to figure out why he's pulling back, but i keep repeating "you've got to let him live his own life," and I'm trying to not get caught up in thinking about reasons why he's gone dark on me again.

Instead I'm going to throw on a swim suit and go do some laps at the pool. I'll save worrying about what his deal is for another day.


BD: Aug 2012
Separated since May 2013
S born Aug 2013
Aug 2013 H agrees to consider 'baby steps toward working things out'
H is/was actively seeing someone?