NOt sure where to begin....it's been so long since I've posted, tho still read so many of your and have gained so much insight...ideas...guidance that you may not realize you are giving. I just read all of BOUNDARIES...whoa....great stuff going on with you NIk. Lots of great input from LL, Talista, optimist, shinybear and others. It's helping me think about about boundaries. My H has not left home...yet....but has said he might, last Sept, Nov...after the holidays....now he's targeting March. When I look back at the times with pos changes in his behaviors....it is when I communicate with strength..confidence and state some boundaries. I need to do that now, again. I need to get on track with all of you and talk with my C. Brief History: Me 49 H 52 Married 24 S 18, D 21 (both away in college) Bomb with OW last May (32 yr co-worker)....I spied...ugly Not sure if EA or PA, probably both H said he would break it off and work on M He did...(he said)...sees and emails her everyday. Major DB for me....read tons....got DB Councelor... exercised, lost wt, got a job, volunteered, re-connected spiritually at church, reached out to trused friends..keep busy 1-2 nights/wk. We're great at being roomates, friends, get along, acutally feel like I'm treated with more respect...had some long, painful R talks...he's in ML crisis....seems lots better than the summer. Some distant intimacy...then H always has regrets the next morning...UCK...this is getting old. Any suggestions? Anyone savvy enough and willing to connect my few and far between on threads?
Thanks for reading this.....I'll be more brief from here on out. Mooka
