Some people say, but I want to come here and vent a million times a day about [why she gave me her phone number], and I'm just venting and why do people tell me to stop obsessing, I have nowhere else to say this stuff...

I think it's good to come here and sometimes get told you're focusing too much on this thing you're venting about, so you can begin to train your thoughts to more productive avenues.

So vent away, but when your venting becomes a crutch that's keeping you stuck, be open to the 2x4s that might come your way. smile Been there.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.