Hardened Heart

[TryingToDo180]

That is waaaaay too much analyzing. You are obsessing. That's not healthy for you, and also, you have seen already that backing off and letting her have space had a positive effect for you. So try to get your focus back on you. One way to help yourself do that is to not discuss with other people things like whether or not it's strange that she gave you her phone number.

Sit back, let her reach out to you, and show a positive mental attitude that you will miss her but will be just FINE without her and she can have all the space she needs to figure out what she needs.

I agree with everything you say A If you carry on analysing and talking about her everytime you see your friends then they will eventually get fed up of this and will try and avoid you. This happened to me at the start when my H first left me and also the reverse happened to me when I gave up on a friend because she was obsessing about her H. It was just too much for me, I'm already going through a lot and I didn't want someone who wanted a one sided conversation - i.e. me, me and me.
Come on the board and vent away. This is what gets me away from talking to friends about it, by venting on the board. If your friends ask you about your W, be brief. Don't bring up the conversation about her, let them bring it up. I had a friend ask me the other week how's things with me and H, I said well he's still gone if that's what you mean. She said would you have him back and I said I suppose so. She then said it's not fair is it and I said no it's not. That was the end of the chat about H. I've actually started feeling uncomfortable talking about him.
Are you seeing an IC? If not then maybe you could see one, that's another person that could give you the answers you are looking for and you can vent away at her.