Suckerpunch needs a life

[labug]

I'm not telling you to stop that, I'm asking you to accept it. This is where you are right now. I did that waking up and the reality hitting me thing for a long time...a. long. time. And I still do it occasionally. It is what it is. We aren't living in the Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

What I did was build new routines/activities into my life that helped to give me other things to focus on. Sometimes it was just minutes but over time those minutes lengthened into half-hours and then hours, etc. Sometimes I didn't do those routines, I didn't beat myself up about "taking time off" but just started again.

Now when I have those mornings, I don't try to make the sadness go away, I acknowledge it, see it for what it is, an emotion that will pass, and go about my day.

Just so you know once again, this doesn't happen overnight. But it's one of those thing that I've built into my life. It's helpful (understatement) to me.

Be in charge of what you can, let the rest go.

How about if you think instead of "I'm struggling" "I'm going through a very painful time in my life and I'm doing the what I can to move through it."

Give yourself some breathing room.