One giant leap forward! - Part 2

[labug]

T, you're getting there. This isn't easy and it takes a long time, as in you'll never be finished. None of us are, when we stop growing and changing, we're dead. I learn something about letting my ego go in communicating with others every day but my values help keep me on the right track.

Now about the values, yes, those things you listed are values. It's difficult to make the right decisions about your life until you know what your values are. Many of us are clueless about that until we're put in a situation that shakes us to our core.

If you make decisions that are driven by things outside of what's important to you, they won't stick, you'll be out of balance and unable to stick to those decisions.

If you respond to your W and it's based on your values and who you want to be, that's moving in your direction.

If you respond to your W thinking that it will somehow get something for you, ie, she'll see your way is right, she'll change, she'll like you more, that's manipulative and controlling and will most likely fail.

This is all boundary stuff and the basic premise of a boundary is it is to protect you, not punish someone else.

So based on your values, what boundaries do you need?