NLT and NLW, thank you for your support. Having a lengthy, in-depth conversation with xh was surprisingly comfortable after so much time and all that's transpired. He even slipped and called me "honey." Today, though, I feel like I need some distance. We still have a lot of talking to do if we are going to try and settle some of the issues that remain, but I'd rather take it slow so we each have sufficient time to recover emotionally.
I now understand xh's motives for changing his previous offers and wanting money out of the house. From comments that he made he's thinking about ending his R and will need his own financial resources to buy a house. When he referenced buying a house with OW I said "Why on earth would you buy a house with someone you don't get along with?" Yup, I really said that. Not good, I know. What I should have said was "I'm sure you'll figure it out" or better yet, nothing at all.
So, xh is definitely skittish. I could really use some guidance on how to handle our next conversation. I understand (thanks for pointing it out, NLW) that he could be cycling and we may or may not communicate well the next time. I also need to recognize in myself and communicate when I don't feel capable of having an intense conversation.
On another note, my best friend and her daughters are visiting old friends and neighbors and had dinner with us last night. It's been a long time since we've had friends for dinner. It really felt good to have them at our table, say grace together and share food and conversation. We won't see them anymore for the rest of their visit here, but will stay with them in a few weeks.
So, yesterday was a good day and not what I anticipated after being upset the night before by opposing counsel's letter regarding my vacation and plans to move.
