Going from what Sandi has also said I should have ignored it.
I think you saw it as her reaching out because you WANT to see her reaching out, and that's natural... all LBH have been there. You just have to take a step back, look at the overall body of work, and be objective. *If* your goal is to set boundaries and get off of your W's hook, then you need to remain disciplined and keep your goals in mind.
What she texted you could very well have been a classic trap (I would say "was" a classic trap, but I won't pretend to be omniscient). If you respond, she knows she still had you where she wants you. If you don't, she could use that non-response as ammo to guilt you in the future.
Again, figure out who YOU want to be, what boundaries YOU have that are healthy for you, and stick to it. When you MUST respond, diffuse and validate as the bigger person. Understand the situation and apply your principles.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
