Ugh T, to not be able to trust that niceness is just your old H peeking out of the tunnel a bit. Even if it IS motivated by guilt, there was a time when his sessions with the Twat did not elicit anything but more nastiness and disrespect towards you. This seems like a good sign.
Thanks for sharing your DBing tips, including your phone-smashing-prevention manuver. Phone-smashing, computer-video-camera-smashing, and other OW-communication-suppression strategies, are very effective stress relieving techniques, but have been known to enable the elusive MLCer to progress from the traditional one-step-forward-two-steps-backwards rhumba to the advanced one-step-forward-sixteen-city-blocks-backwards tango, thus ultimately proving to be counter productive.
Have fun at the spa. You'll be glowing, FT will be growing...fatter!
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17