Sorry you find yourself here. Luckily, there are a bunch of people who have similar stories that will provide advice, their perspective, their story, etc., so take advantage of that. And post often!
Start with reading DR/DB and after that, I'd suggest The Five Love Languages and Love Must be Tough. The one book I really thought of while reading your sitch was How to Improve your Marriage without Talking about It. That one really sheds some light on things I think are playing a role in your marriage.
What haven't you liked about your role in the marriage? What are some things you want to work on? How do you become the woman only a fool would leave?
