TVS, do you know which days you'll be there and the town yet? I'm sure we can work this out ok uR? Nero is flying down to FL today but hopefully she can meet up with us.
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
I wanted to tell you a few things. I know how hard this is for you. I was married for 25 years at bomb date.
The thing I want to be sure you understand is that though this feels like it, it really isnt about you.
That's not to say we were all perfect spouses and didnt need to change some stuff. We werent and we did.
But, this crisis is real. Your h is broken. He could not change to the extent he has if he wasnt.
So, while it is so hurtful that things he says and does, please try to remember he is not of his right mind.
You are such a loving, compassionate person, my friend. And I am so sorry that this has happened.
There is nothing wrong with being angry or sad. This is a horrendous thing to go through.
It is important that you try as hard as you can to detach yourself from his actions and words.
I know it's hard. But it really is necessary.
Sometimes it helps to use your anger to propel you forward.
So, my friend, say to yourself that your h is nuts right now.
And there is nothing you can do about it.
Each time you see him, keep something in your head. Me standing there jumping up and down saying, "The cuckoo is flying around the clock, get out of the way." LOL!
And remember who you are, how loving you are, how loyal and that he is lucky to have you.
When you are around him, act as if you know the secret, and poor him, is clueless.
Walk with dignity and strength, with your head held high, with the attitude that maybe you will talk to him, maybe you wont. Your choice.
Act as if you are moving forward with your life, and maybe you will wait around for him and maybe you wont. Your choice.
And soon, you will not be acting as if, Linda. You will just be.
ok uR? Nero is flying down to FL today but hopefully she can meet up with us.