Just reading Ad's thread and saw her comment about how she'd be happier if her H just disappeared off the face of the Earth.

I feel this way too.
Every time XH communicates with us - when he wants something - it puts me back a step or two.

I wonder, though, if my desire not to interact with him is preserving my image of him as the old, loving H I used to know.

This is the guy I mourn.

But reality is, he doesn't exist anymore.

Interesting, isn't it, that mlcers are the ones who keep stating that people can't change.

The reality is setting in for me that he is going to be in my life as my X for a long time. I don't like it.