Rebuilding my life and searching for joy

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GM,

I'm so happy to hear that the conversation went well. You were both right to let the conversation continue on another day. You handled it very, very well. It's almost better to do things via phone when dealing with people like your xh. You have an immediate "out" if necessary.

Your ideas on rebuilding trust are excellent. With his issues and anger, it will be a very slow process and I know that you have the patience to see it through.

Just as Snodderly says, if you just sit back and listen they will tell you what you need to know. It made me smile when you he told you that his living situation wasn't ideal and that he and the ow were having arguments. Your xh has a long way to go but it has to start somewhere and it sounds like this first convo was the start of something that hopefully will set the stage for future conversations.

I admire the way you are handling this. I won't forget what you posted to me a few months back when I was having trouble not being truthful and honest while still dbing with my h. I found that when I am honest (while still dbing) it comes out more naturally and comfortable for me. If that makes sense.

I know you'll rest just a little bit easier tonight so enjoy the rest of your evening doing something fun with your boys and forget about dbing for just a few hours. Hugs and prayers are on their way to you!