See? Now you think you've got to VALIDATE her stupid remarks at 1:00 in the morning!
That is not validating, T. She was after a reaction, and you took the bait. Why oh why do you think it is DBing to answer every time she sends one of her "messages"? She didn't even ask a question!
You need to recognize when she is doing a temperature check. That's all she was doing, checkling to see if she could get you to react to her pitiful little sob in the wee hours of the morning. My gosh, if you can't pass on that little test, how could you hope to resist when she comes on with sex? I know, you can't see her doing it, but I'm telling you to be watching. My gosh, she can work you without even breaking a fingernail !
Look, she is repeating the same old behavior patterns. As long as you keep responding in the same old ways, why would she try to change? How could you expect to have a different MR?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
