uR, thank you for checking up on me. I always learn a lot from your posts to other people. I know it is consensus on this board that snooping on WAS is not a good thing and it doesn’t serve LBS well. I’ve learnt some valuable things thru snooping though. It hurt at first, but then I found out that it was making me stronger and more determined to move forward with my life. IDK, I need to think more about these feelings.

I agree with you that I need to leave him to live his life, and this is what I’ve been doing pretty much since BD, well, with a couple of setbacks according to DB principles. In my recent replies to him I actually was not thinking much about what to write. It comes almost naturally these days. I thought I was making good progress. But, my findings today made me think again about what I did wrong to push him away. The initial shock wore away pretty quick though, and I’m back to the calm state of mind now.


M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state