OK you both are kind of changing what you say as you go, which is really normal. In my early days of my sitch my emotions ran all over the place and I made statements and sort of tried them on and adjusted as I went.
I thought your sig living together unhappily, Hope, a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy. I thought 2little feeling so sure he should "sacrifice" himself and live with his w with no indication of working on anything, likewise a self-fulfilling prophecy.
DB doesn't say you both need to work on your marriage or you both need to go pursue happiness elsewhere. DB can't make that happen. DB is what you do all on your own, for yourself. DB says happiness comes from within, regardless of what your spouse is doing. You can get there, and if you can, your spouse may find the space and motivation to change too.
Your words here suggested to me that you feel that's not worth making any effort to do. I'm just saying, you don't know the future. DB gives you something to work on that you actually do control.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
