Linda, You are so right. That crazy, greedy and manipulative ow is more than likely behind the D talk. I am wondering if she hasn't filed herself and is encouraging him to do the same.

I'm doing my best to stay calm and not react to this but it is so hard to visualize the future without him. It's not that I can't live without him it's that I don't want to be without him. What keeps going through my mind is that there were/are no major issues in our marriage. He would surely have brought up those by now and used them as an excuse to leave rather than to take responsibility for his behavior. Longer term marriage do get stale, resentments build, couples drift apart and stop communicating. During our marriage he and I have made it a point to stay connected and talk rather than stuff our resentments and make a point to do something together at least once a week even during the crazy child rearing years. He continues to say that it's HIM and not ME so at this point, he is still taking responsibility. That just doesn't make sense to me.

I've been thinking of calling my daughter, the one that he told about his moving out to let her know his latest thoughts but I hesitate because I know that she will be upset. He told her about what he is doing and even about the ow around month ago and asked her not to tell anyone else. When she asked him whether we were separated he said no and that he had no intention of doing that. Hmmm, what a difference a month makes. It must be like years in the mind of an mlcer. My sense is to wait a bit so I'll grab a bowl of popcorn, a tall cool drink and watch the parade on this dog day afternoon.

Me:57H:62
M:34T:35
2S,2D (grown nlah)
BD:09/2012 visits M ow
EA/PA?:10/2012
H moves out 06/2013

"Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." -Dalai Lama