chl, keep up the good work. Make the changes for you. If he notices great. If not as long as you like it then be happy. I know how it feels to be let down constantly. You get a glimmer of hope and then they dash it. Someone advised me to just emotionally detach as much as possible. Remain cool as a cucumber. Nothing bothers you. Then if you do feel your emotions starting to get the better of you, leave. Don't let him see you cry or be emotional about things. I think this is really key though I haven't learned it myself completely. This is a process!

Read the 180/sandi rules several times a day to remind yourself. Read the books. Im in the middle of DB and once this baby comes when I have time to myself I'll read DR and the other book about communication. You will find you make mistakes but as long as you grow and learn you'll be moving in the right direction.

Good luck in your situation.

Me 35 H 34
DS- newborn 8/13
T 8.5 M 7
H's EA - 10/11
INILWY 5/13
DBing 6/13
Don't know WTF to do 1/14