To little Too late

[lost_hope]

Yes you're all right labug. My newborn is going to know his parents are in a mess right now. And he'd have a much better life if mommy does it on her own living in a country she didnt grow up in without support and time from his fathe. Yes that sounds really ideal ...

I'm not going to write anymore bc this is not my thread but I'm not punishing my kid by trying to maintain a friendship with his dad and allowing him to live with us. My H is not punishing our kid by buying us a house and wanting to maintain an active presence in his baby's life. We sold our condo ... I guess according to you guys I should have just found a cramped apartment to rent instead. To ensure "happiness". None of you are judging are going to be there for me as a first time mom. None of you are going to be there for OP when his daughter wonders why she has to shuttle between two houses instead of one.

As I said to the OP I totally understand where you are coming from. I will reiterate that only you can make that call regarding what's best for your child. Children are not to be casualties in our messy marriages hence why you go dim, not dark if you have them. Good luck!!