Yay Bklyn! Good job for noticing and reinforcing how well you deal with life's challenges. You have such great resources!

I was thinking, I know there are a bazillion parenting experts out there but there is one that really changed my outlook when my kids were making me crazy, and surprisingly it now sounds a little similar to db. You might find it helps your state of mind. Take a look around the internet for Celebrate Calm. Kirk Martin travels around doing seminars - the ones I attended were free, offered by my school's PTO and my church. He has CDs that are wonderful to listen to. He has such respect for kids and such compassion for parents and he's very funny. My takeaway was to learn that my kids could have their behavior and their feelings and my feelings could be completely different! I could be happy, calm, and content while they were having a meltdown or going berserk because their feelings were not my feelings! That was a paradigm shift. When you say you feel like a bad mom because they're whining, I think of Kirk and how he'd help change that thought pattern.


Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.