I am sorry he has said all of that although i'm not very surprised.
I have to agree with Thumpered. You are hanging what you do and how you feel all on him.
You read DR. So you read the part about one person being able to effect change.
There are no guarantees in any of this. Db, counseling, prayer, the man in the moon intervening, may or may not save your marriage...
However, db definately gives you the best shot moving forward.
Db alone helped to reconcile my marriage after the first bomb. Unfortunately, we didn't do the real work needed to sustain it. When the second wave of my x's MLC hit, db got me through to the point where I was able to make the best choices for me. We have a good coparenting relationship now, which is much more than I hoped for a few years ago. I am in a good, new, happy relationship now that I navigate much better most days. With a man that is much better suited to me than my x ever was.
I would have none of that if I had just listened to my x and his spew at times.
Even if you believe you are done, I encourage you to continue posting, learning, detatching and doing the work that is yet to come.
It can only help you in the future.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
