One month down, zero casualties

[RosaLinda]

Thank you for this explanation Wonka [i]"What I had in mind in respect to jotting down ideas in your Oracle were the times, days, that H initiated phone games, when he was feeling low, or any weird stuff. This will provide you some helpful clues to gain insight in what's happening with H. I am pretty sure that you'll clearly see what specific patterns emerge and then you'll be able to adjust accordingly. Sort of anticipating the enemy's movements [OW1 or OW2) will give you more of an advantage in DBing H. It seems to me that doing this will aid H greatly in the reconnection phase."[i]

i have decided to try this too Raine. Betsey called it a "solution journal." You know, what we try and the result. Your H really seems to be trying to wind down, cut himself off from these OW. And reconnect with you. It's hard for him, harder for you. Keep reachingHigher's sitch in mind - her H's "backslides" into replay, but becoming less and less frequent. 

I hope you have a good weekend. Peaceful and fun. Hang in there, you may be losing the battle but you are winning the war! I wish we had a "heart" emoticon' <3