The Show Must Go On

[RosaLinda]

Hi Bright. Gee after reading your explanation about why you felt free to stay at your vacation home at the same time your H was there, I think I would have felt the same way (that I was welcome to visit any time since it was my home too) and would have done the same thing. No wonder you were blindsised by his reaction. Sorry it caused such a set back in your R. 

I have been trying to remember all of the setbacks in my R and what caused them, as well as things that seemed to bring H and me closer together (not many of those I'm afraid) to start a solutions journal like Betsey (Underdog) suggested on Wonka's thread. Do you do any journaling like that? I only journal my thought and feelings, but think journaling solutions would help keep us away from those cheeseless tunnels. I need all my cheese to sprinkle on my popcorn!

I think you're wise to follow your H's lead in the tone of your interactions. If he sends a business like text, be friendly but not loving. I bought an e-book when my H was having his first EA named "Text the Romance Back" and followed that program, sending him fun flirty texts. It made him livid!! Now I can see it was pursuing, and not intended to be used for someone in MLC.

Keep away from that pole!! We need you smooth and sexy for your vacation, no bruises allowed!