Has Christine graduated to piecing?

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The crankiness could definitely have been a factor, I see my H go to negative extremes in that kind of mood, for sure.... He hates everything in those moods. Also, maybe H threw out a dagger in a way to regain control kind of thing? Control over crazy feelings inside, which in all honesty have nothing to do with you, but you get blamed for it since you're closest? Sometimes the tiniest things set it off, it's like a chip on his shoulder that he needs to resolve. Perhaps there are some new insights you can find about what sets him off, see if you can identify if there is pattern or anything you could do different, if there seems to be anything that you might have done that gets to him the wrong way? I come from a weird perspective, I guess, since I have had WAW in me. At times in the past I must confess, I threatened leaving H. Each time it was because he did something to make me feel unloved that I was unnecessarily sensitive to. Perhaps there is some deep issue of H's that gets set off? Worth some reflection, anyhow. Nonetheless, I've found what's best is to lie super low when H is cranky, like tornado passing through. The more I leave him alone and don't react, respect his space, the sooner he comes back and is his nicer old self again. Sounds like you pulled that off when you ended up getting an ILY later on! Keep up with the DB and being calm, cool. Know in your heart, H does care deep and has not left.