Thumper, gentlemen, I made my point and it was partly understood. My question was why this matters IF your course of action is the same. Some seem to think 180's should not be done if its MLC. I disagree. No 180's are to be done purely for confusing the spouse. These are changes---improvements you make to be a better partner. Otherwise the 180's are false tactics. They obviously won't last in a reconciliation. I also don't know where the hard data is which proves an MLC is more likely to return than a WAS. Perhaps some WASs who change their mind are then labelled as MLC.
Regardless, changing to become your best self & parent, GAL are still the only things I've seen work. But if you think the research does something that helps you change and GAL & detach, then by all means keep at it.
I just passed on my experience. Good luck!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
