My Story - Need Help... Is there hope?

[truelovewaits]

She complained that we were like brother and sister. We went through some rough times but were ok. Not great but ok. We were then separated for about a year in different states because of work. When she returned things were hot and cold. She loved me and then was distant.

I didn't really get answers. She would say I was controlling in the end, which is true as I was trying to save the marriage and listening to the MC who said we needed to spend time together but that isn't what she wanted. I yelled and she felt I had a temper, and I did. However, it wasn't like I got mad at anything, it was when she would lie or flake on plans that we had and blame the excuse with others on me etc. We both yelled. I figure though a lot had to do that she also felt I was weak when things were bad and that I put on a lot of weight then.

Things are really different now but she can't and doesn't see that. I'm not weak and I've lost all of the weight and then some. A lot of changes but none of it matters with respect to her as she doesn't know or care I assume.

I'm getting things right for me, but not a day goes by that I don't wish we just had a chance to work on things.