My opinion of dating and wanting her to know that your are done with her:
Dating: only you will know when you feel the time is right to date. When the time is right, go date. You are a single man right now. Start doing what makes you feel happy. If you want to be a Stander and wait for her that is your choice too. Only you can decide that.
As far as wanting her to know that you are done with her. Don't tell her in a letter, SHOW HER! If she notices great but you can count on that. By going out and GAL, you will be helping yourself to heal and get on with your life. If later down the road you happen to find each other again, great! But GAL will put you in a position that will allow you to be in a far better place if the right person comes along. Its time for you to be a little selfish for yourself. Treat yourself well and the rest will fall into place.
As far as proving that you are great guy to everyone. I think you are preaching to the wrong audience. The only one you, or any of us, need to prove anything to is ourselves. Be happy with yourself first and don't worry what anyone else thinks. You have to find YOUR happiness, not someone elses.
I believe that when you find your own happiness, love will follow. You just cant force it.
Get back out there and be you. You are a great person and if you meet someone you like, explore it. It is your choice and yours alone. You will know when the time is right for you.
