You do not know what your 9yo perceives, nor what she'll perceive at 13, 17, etc. Nor when she finds out later, if you separate then, that you were faking it through her childhood and her memories are fake. Not trying to be mean, but you really do not know what she is going to think or feel in either case. I think you put more emphasis on being two parents in one house, love or no love, than on teaching her how to live and love well. What is it that you want her to learn?
I disagree with you, life is very complicated. My life is ridiculously complicated, but I am at peace and I really hope to be able to teach my kids that we are not going to fall apart just because my marriage did.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
