I've been lurking around and posting on other threads and I realized that I haven't posted in awhile here on my thread.
Life is pretty good here with my "new" R with H. He seems to be making an effort to show appreciation and love. I'm still in shock over it all. I wake up and I have to pinch myself that this is all real!
I was talking to a friend about "extreme makeovers" and I really liked the analogy. I feel as if I have undergone an extreme makeover internally. I react so differently now that I have learned DBing. In fact, my H made an offhand comment the other day about how I "never" argue with him. Wow, 5 months ago he was saying that I always argue with him and that was one of the reasons that he wanted a D.
BTW, I was going through my old threads to get some information for my C and I realized that one whole thread during the holidays is gone. MIA! That's really too bad because this was the thread where my H was behaving at his worst. His head was spinning and he was throwing up green stuff. I was on the verge of calling for the exorcist. I think that it was during this time frame that I did my best DB work. It's too bad that it is missing.
This reminds me of another element of DBing that really helped me pull this off. DON'T LOSE YOUR COOL NO MATTER WHAT! It's like being a secret agent. One false move and you're dead. STAY CALM AT ALL COSTS. DON'T REACT WITH EMOTION. IF YOU CAN'T BE CALM, THEN DON'T SAY ANYTHING.
DBing has been a miracle for me (the thong helped too).
Christine
I am the master of creating positive energy and love in my own environment. I am the source of love in my life. It starts with me! This energy radiates from me! It gives me strength, courage, wisdom and grace!
