Dropping the Rope

[littleGTO]

Thank you, Spartan!

I am in a bit of a rut with the new decision to move forward w D. I know this is my path to my future.

I so want to be through this to the other side where AS is , enjoying life and excited about what lies ahead.

But there is hard work ahead to get through some very touch decision making. I guess I'm ready for advice regarding divorce.

Technically I should move over to Surviving the Big D, but all my "friends" are here. Here are my thoughts & questions:

--I have always believed that I wanted ONE HOME for my boys esp during the school week. ANd, they have ONLY lived w me since H moved out 8months ago. Now he wants them to live w him 3 days out of the week.
--Am I being selfish to fight for having the boys only in their one home during the week and then split weekend time?

--Concerning our home. The lawyer I saw in April told me that delaying splitting equity in the house is more common now. I was hoping we could wait until at least the oldest graduated hs (4 years) to split equity. But he wants to have money to buy his own house.
--Why would I agree to this when the lawyer pretty much assured me that delaying splitting equity was probable? Also, is there any advantage (other than not owning a house with him)