I agree that this may have as mcuh to do with OW's own needs, and not your H. Remember, OW became one side of your R triangle and it's a side outside your control.
Given your legitimate concerns, however, at some time it may be necessary to probe the OW more fully with your H so that demon can be put to rest. I'm not an expert on this, but there's lots of writing and books out there can help you.
As an aside, I think I'm going to bag my new "friend." After last night's convo, I realize I just don't have it in me and right now I'll let God bring people to me instead of me looking for them. Gotta go; busy day ahead. You have a great day and...Don't worry. Be happy!
