Tori, I always appreciate your advice. Your tread was one of the first once I’ve read on this site when I found it. I know that I overanalyze my H’s actions, but it is really hard not to. I had such a limited contact for some time that every word, text, e-mail mattered to me. I’m absolutely trying to focus on me and I think I’m making some good progress! It helps a lot to be able to come here to this board and read the stories like yours. I’ve learnt a lot from you and other posters here.

Limbo, thanks for stopping by and for your kind words. I’m glad you are OK and plugging along. Yes, I’m definitely afraid of placing too much hope into these recent interactions with H. I’m feeling strangely calm these days. His texts and e-mails don’t throw me into the loop any more.

I was hurting after one of the poll dancing classes this week, but decided to take another one, since my prepaid package that I bought a few months ago was expiring. I thought I would not be able to do much in the class because I still had some pain in my arms and legs, but surprisingly, I did better than in the previous class. This is the best conditioning exercise I’ve tried so far. But now, I have some bruises… They said it is normal for the beginners. I’m going to take some break from this. I want to go to our vacation place again next week to lay by the pool and go to the beach, so I don’t need any bruises on me.

H sent me an e-mail today informing me that he successfully installed his e-mail and the business software per my instructions and thanking me for the help. Then he asked if I did any updates in business and he wants to do his invoices for this week. I’m going to reply in the same, businesslike manner.


M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state