Jmo, but I did not see you being antagonistic in your emails to her. She was not speaking the truth! You did not let her get away with her mess, and you typed it back to her as the true facts really were. And who knows, you may need to have those emails as your backup some day. So, why would you make it sound as if you were the jerk? And before anyone says this is not about who is right.......there comes a time (such as in getting visitation rights) when it is very important that you are the person who is right.

What AS suggested is nice, but can you imagine how your W would interpret it? After the way she twisted the truth, saying you "knew things were changing"............oh sure, the last you knew, she was planning a holiday trip! She made you sound pretty bad, and if a judge had not read as many of your posts as we have....who would know any difference.

I realize that has past, but I'm bringing it up b/c I am concerned you will go overboard.....thinking you need to validate. AS is rather exceptional, as most men go in validating. A lot of the LBH'S on the board have trouble keeping it balanced......and it stops looking like validation and starts looking more like a doormat trying to kiss tail.

I understand his point, and I don't disagree.......if you can do it as well as he can.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!