Thumpered, I personally find all the research fascinating. While understanding that 99.5% of any actions we do to try and directly affect our WAS will be counter productive, knowing this stuff does provide some peace of mind.

Good luck!!!

Me-45
W-44
T-7 years
M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated)
Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)