Well that was a horrible day, missing dinner with my 5 year old. WAS thinks it would upset the children if I came, that they would want us to stay together. She was not upset to see how WA hurts them.

I explained my POV and said she will need to explain why I am not there to the children. I know she will duck this question from the children. I should have let it go but pushed it and she said I was using emotional blackmail and bully her. I don't feel I do but must learn to understand what this is and not do it.

So I am taking the children for afternoon tea tomorrow and licking my wounds. It hurts and is hard so going to go for a long bike ride tomorrow morning as training for my 100 mile ride in London.

It hurts and I need to focus on positives rather than anger at missing dinner.


Me 44
WAS 41
T 11
S 8
D 5
DB November 2012
EA and PA discovered December 2012
WAS moved out 4 May 2013
Share residence of S and D 50/50
WAS moves in with OM 1 September 2013.