Bklyn

[BklynMom]

These are the email exchanges with STBX today:::

STBX writes:

Bklyn

I am all for mediation. The document your dad (my lawyer) received was sent before his email to Dan (His lawyer), and it was only sent because we had to submit a proposed parenting plan to the court. And that was all it was, a proposal, like if I had everything my way, that is how I'd like it.

I found a mediator who I think can work out. I spoke with him Monday on the phone and told him i would give you his info and ask you to reach out to him and see if you're comfortable using him as the mediator. His name is MEDIATOR

I haven't been able to go through the financial plan your father sent yet, but I will before we sit down with the mediator and would love to only have to hash out the financial side of things. (How can the mediator only do the financials if the parenting agreement he resent is completely different then the one we agreed to a few months ago?)


Please let me know if MEDIATOR works for you.

My response:

Thanks for finding someone. I will call MEDIATOR today but I am just curious he is a lawyer so what is he going to do different?

Also your parenting proposal asks for things we already agreed to like the kids would not live at your house even if I was working.

I feel like you are asking for more then you want as a negotiating tactic where as I am just asking for what is fair for the girls. I agreed to everything you asked when we went to the dinner and now you are asking for more parenting time. STBX, you don't take all of your allotted time with the girls, you don't take any initiative in there school or extras circulars, you rarely call, when I ask you to help watch the kids when I Am working you accuse me of using you as a babysitter, ... Why then are you asking for more

I would love for you to be more involved. If you want to pick the extra ciriculars for the fall, I know this yeAr D4 and D3 will be able to be in the same gymnastics class or find a soccer program they could both do, or if you want to be in charge of the doctor check ups or dentists appointments.

Even though I don't want a co parenting schedule meaning a open schedule based on our current job I do want a co-parent and I know the girls miss you especially Lucy.

I am always open to schedule changes on a as needed basis please do not hesitate to ask for more time with the girls.

bklyn

sent from my idevice

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Now that I am rereading what I wrote it seems so harsh and not written enough in a nice tone. I guess its hard to find a perfect medium. I think I did a good job not perfect but the best I could.