Or would i be better off by just sending her a final letter and leaving it at the house. Maybe something as follows:
W,
I just want to let you know that i treasure the time i have spent with you during our years together. I have accepted my faults and i understand why you feel you needed to come to this decision.
However, i also feel right now that it is time for me to move on. You don't want me in your life now and have clearly stated this to me. I am not sexy to you anymore, and you mentioned that you have felt from the beginning that this was all a mistake. You have stated to me in the past during all this that if you see true changes in me, then maybe we can start dating again. I don't feel that way right now and my life and career are now pulling me in new directions and i feel that i need to focus my attention on those things, and most importantly, on our children. I will not be anyone's second choice. I am a strong man and i feel that is what i deserve.
I wish you nothing but the best, and i hope you find whatever you are looking for in life, but it is with a heavy heart that i feel i need to make one final request. I ask that you no longer contact me about anything unless it is in regards to the children or related to the sale of the house.
I feel like i can hold my head high and i have come to terms with the fact that i tried everything i could to save our M, but you just couldn't trust the changes i was making and you told me you weren't going to wait. I don't blame you for this.
These changes are exciting for me and i feel a new found hope for what life is going to bring me in the future.
I want to tell you that you will always have a special place tucked away in my heart, i truly would have died for you and i can say that you once were the love of my life, and with this i would like to tell you one final time,
Goodbye.
Me: 41 W: 36 M:9 yrs Together: 12 yrs Kids S7 S4 BD: 01/13 W filed 5/13 D final 8/13