Hi FY, intimate life was great, extra juicy, up until she started posting pics on sites a couple and a half three months before BD. Then it changed...no kissing, few hugs, definite change in passion level before it went to zero, zilch, nada.
From the things she has said (deliberately, or let slip sometimes) the past couple years, she discovered that she was attractive and guys wanted her, then it was like "Oh, I have options" or something, and like the part from "Midlife Crisis for Dummies" regarding the OP, all those guys who never had a chance with her, well they did now! And she was going to make up for her lost adolescence and early 20's! Just like the script.
I think she will be able to forgive and move on, once she moves forward in the process some more, comes to accept, and hopefully get some professional help to speed it up...but if not, I have seen firsthand people come to terms with the past, accept, forgive, all by themselves.
She knows you, FY. Good, bad and ugly. I have to think, with no kids or financial dependance on you, that if she thought badly of you, or you were a monster (you're not!), she wouldn't be hanging around still, ya know?
Hang in there and have a great weekend!!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
