Accuray: "Play it out -- what are you expecting to happen when you confront her? Are you expecting an apology? A show of remorse? Compassion for how you feel? Surprise and sadness that she's been discovered?"
I always respect your opinion Accuray, but I struggle with this. The larger part of my brain knows I will get none of what you said above. She will be cold and heartless...if she comes clean. I will get the whole "I told you we were done and filed for divorce two months ago" speech. But I guess I just want to know for my own sake, clear the air and get some honesty, and so I can get some respect back...and to prove I am not some lame idiot oblivious to what she thinks she is getting away with and laughing behind my back.
I do have something to lose in this. She could flip and tell me to leave the house (which I can not afford), or she will leave the house hanging me with a mortgage I can not afford. But I just feel like acting as if is making me look weak, stupid, and a carpet.
Other than this...we have been getting along ok, especially alone. She kinda gets nasty and stand offish if her friends are around.
Me-45,W-36 M-12 yrs, T-15 years SS- 16 Nov 2003 Initial B date, 2-3 others since EA/PA OM 2003-2004 Reconciled 2004 May 2013 Final BD, W completely detaches W files D June 2013 I am moving out 26 July 2013
