Linda, I know it is painful, and my h was the same - it was as if I had a contagious disease, potentially fatal to anyone within 5 feet of me. [When we met in February this year he kissed me!!!!!!! nearly fell over]
Now I wish I had just laughed at it. I mean really, shake hands with a remote. Come on, it is hilarious, as well as hurtful.
Another friend and I who have have lived through all of this, both agree we wished we had laughed at our xh's idiotic behaviour more. It would have done us good, and night not have hurt them