GM, I hope you are feeling a bit better this morning. I don't think your h is going to go quietly. Yes, he'll be happy that you have finally agreed to move out and sell the home, but I think he'll fight you on the idea of moving away. Why? Because of "control". He's going to want to have you and the boys at his beck and call and he's not going to be happy w/them moving away. That's just my two cents. He may prove me wrong on this one, so please don't worry about what I've posted until the hearing and see what the outcome will be.
I know it's difficult, but I do hope that you and the boys have a good weekend. Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
