I just can't get you off of my mind

[RosaLinda]

Hmmmm, it's the old risk-benefit analysis FY. OM....high end fancy sports car. Good choice on W's part!

Thanks for the reminder "After all, our spouses are still at home with us. That's worth something, I figure.". You're right, that is worth a LOT and is a good thing to keep in mind. If they wanted to be gone, they would. 

You are wondering how badluly you bombed you chances at reconciliation with that one time incident. I would say that if she comes out of her MLC, and there is absolutlely no reason to believe she will not at this point, that she will forgive and forget. You made a mistake, and not a really terrible one at that. She knows that is not the real you. 

Put it this way - your W has the same chance of forgiving you for your alcohol induced action as my H has of deciding I have not been cheating on him for 38 years because he saw another nurse put his arm around me when he was apologizing to me for saying simething really nasty about my parenting skills. Sometimes it seems impossible to me, but in reality, there is a very good chance they will realize the truth once their brains are functioning again.