The reality is that my W was never what you would call a "Good" W. I went through my marriage hoping she would change, that she would grow up. Her family tells me that this is the real her. That this is exactly what she was like in high school
She doesn't cook, she doesn't clean, she is very controlling. But, mostly, there is an underlying unhappiness. And, there is a certain selfishness and aggressiveness that says "I am going to hurt you before you hurt me". Again her family tells me that these traits have always been there.
But, this is mixed with a certain sweetness and sense of values. She doesn't smoke, or drink, or swear (and yet she actually flipped me off - where did that come from?). I never thought she would lie, or hurt me like this. I still love her.
Woman are complicated. I wish my daughters would stay little girls.
