Not a skill I am very good at. It is funny, but when she is actin really outragous, I can detach easily. In the quit times like this, I can't.
When she is ignoring me and I am left to my own thoughts, I start thinking about my expectations in life and my views on family. I start framing this mental fantasy about who she is or was. I imagine a different relationship and a different life. It fills me with desire for my wife and I want to persue rather than detach. I can't control these thoughts.
What mystifies me is that I know that my W will never be that fantasy, yet my emotions run that direction regardless. Sometimes I think I am as delusional as my W.