My kids are too young. My oldest is 12, and I think she senses/feels things but cannot articulate what is going on. I say nothing negative about their mom. I think to myself that if we separate, I want my kids to have two parents that they respect. I expect my W to do what is necessary, and I will do what is necessary.
Anyway, this evening discussed with W her returning to school and leaving (abandoning?) us. I encouraged her to pursue her dreams. I told her that I see this as her one chance to apply to school and that she should apply to as many places as possible to increase her chances and also to start saving $$ so that it does not become a financial obstacle. So far she has done neither. She has only done the application for 2 schools that are 2 hours and 4 hours away. She has done nothing financially to save towards school.
If she did this, she would go to school for 1 year and be away from us. She would then have to do a 1 year residency locally but very demanding. This means she quits her current job, which would cut our family income by 40% for the next two years.
