Well, its been a couple weeks but here I am again. I have been watching and giving advice, but laying off my threads. Some new developments have arrived that I need advice on.
My W has been telling me to get involved in the finances, specifically mine. Well I have been and noticed a charge on our joint credit card for a hotel room. I confronted her about it, and she told me she thought I stayed there and didnt care. When I told her I didnt, she told me she didnt either, and would dispute the charge.
I went to the hotel and confronted the manager, who showed me the receipt...with W's signature on it, and a copy of her ID. So, she lied to me.
I have long thought she was having an A. She guarded her cell, and eventually locked it. She has changed all the passwords for just about everything. She refuses to have S with me, which is funny that she wont cheat on her boyfriend, with her husband who she is cheating on...and seems to be out GAL'ing me, constantly out with girlfriends and otherwise out of the house.
The divorce paperwork is filed about a month now, and she is making no bones about changing course. We have been getting along pretty well as house mates, but thats about it. I believe this is because I have been doing my best to avoid R talk and giving her space.
I guess at this point I need advice on if I should confront her about the hotel room. I mean, do I continue to live the lie and let her go behind my back while were married? Or be a man and ask for the truth?
Me-45,W-36 M-12 yrs, T-15 years SS- 16 Nov 2003 Initial B date, 2-3 others since EA/PA OM 2003-2004 Reconciled 2004 May 2013 Final BD, W completely detaches W files D June 2013 I am moving out 26 July 2013
