I know most of the things i have done wrong during our M. I know i have caused this just as much as her, but why am i struggling so much with my emotions over someone who told me she doesn't want me around any more? Someone who basically tells you that your not good enough for them anymore. Is it because she is trying to make herself feel better by dumping all this on me?
Is it wrong for me to tell her that if this continues to happen then i will look into possibly gaining full custody of my kids? Is it wrong for me to feel guilty that if i do that, i will push her so far away that she will never come back?
First paragraph: Get use to everything being your fault in her eyes. She will blame you for everything, just as my W has done. ITS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! But it is your problem not. You need to step up and handle it. Even if it means losing her. Your kids come first.
Second paragraph: Never feel guilty for protecting your children. They come first! If protecting them pushes her farther away, so be it. They come before you and your W.
Sorry to sound so harsh but that is the way I feel. I want only the best for you, your W, your marriage and especially your children. Take care of the children and yourself first. The rest will fall into place, with or without your W.
She will respect you as a person for protecting your family. She may not come back, but she will respect you. It may take her a long time to realize this but, once again, that is her problem.
Best wishes and my prayer go out to you and your family.
