Found you! And it turns out you're probably near where my D19 is headed in 2 weeks. She goes to an engineering school in wayyyyyy upstate NY, but is heading to her roomie's vacation house on Lake Ontario first.
Anyway, I'm going to have to read your backstory first. Maybe tomorrow if I get a few minutes to myself.
But I could not help wanting to address your plea over on AD's thread. Unless your H is a complete narcissist or sociopath, I'm going to encourage you to encourage him to partake more in parenting responsibilities. It's good for all of you, especially you. Your children are just way too small for you to have to bear that burden alone. My kids were 8 and 5 when their dad left. And my youngest is a special needs kid. I had to make it easy for him to pick them. It often meant I had to check my feelings at the door.
Let me do a little reading to see how you've progressed through the crap. It's really hard, isn't it? Im grateful that I can co-parent with him. Next week we have 2 doctor appointments with D16 - I get the naggy nephrologist, who always scolds me for her not drinking enough, and he gets a 4 hour EEG. Neither is easy or convenient! Then in September one of us gets the 2-for-1 special: anesthesia for a brain MRI and oral surgery to remove 4 impacted wisdom teeth. Guess who's probably going to draw that straw??? She's probably going to want me anyway...
Get some sleep, OK? I remember how difficult it was on top of sleep deprivation.
Take care-
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
