We have a therapy appointment, next Thursday at 5. H made it himself. He insisted. He said it was symbolic. Symbolic of what, I don't know. But it's an appointment, I'll take it.
This is our THIRD therapist. I think we got it right this time. I found the therapist on the marriage friendly website in May and have talked to him on the phone. He sounds very confident. We had an appointment with him in May but then H decided he wanted a divorce and disappeared from the house and filed...so therapy never happened.
I'm certainly willing to call him again and ask more questions if anyone has anything specific I should ask.
The first two therapists that we went to told us at the first visit some version of, "I can't make you stay married, that's up to you. I can help you with the transition if you don't want to be"
I mean no, they can't MAKE us stay married...but I'd at least like them to try. And to give us some hope. Geesh, it was our first visit. We could have been arguing over something totally petty at that point, they didn't know.
I guess it was a blessing in disguise that my husband decided after just one or two visits with each of them that he needed to work on himself and wasn't ready to deal with marriage counseling.
Of course he continued to work on himself with one of those awful marriage therapists...but she doesn't seem to have completely killed our chances yet. Fingers crossed!
