Just deactivated FB for a while, I am very hamstery, since I am so overwhelmed with work, school etc. I think the more tired you get, the more crazy you get?
Any find this correlation?
Oh yes I can completely agree... HALT, when any of this is going on watch your emotional state
h= hungry a= angry l= lonely t= tired
It's a hard walk Ruby, take your time and get around other people, socialize don't hole up somewhere and isolate yourself. If I were anywhere near you I'd take you out for ice cream... so a virtual one will have to do. (((R)))
Look...they are all valid lol!! Thanks for the ice cream
I think it is a good idea to step back for awhile. Staying in his apartment is definitely a trigger for you right now. Can you stay somewhere else for some time?
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
Solid move! I wasn't much of a FB'er, but I did this long ago and it's very freeing.
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I am very hamstery, since I am so overwhelmed with work, school etc. I think the more tired you get, the more crazy you get?
Any find this correlation?
YES!!! Sleep is integral to mental stability, especially during trying times.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
Ruby- My wifes dream was to live overseas. She wanted us to sell the home and experience life in India or Ecuador or China etc. My profession is the type that lends itself to overseas outsource so I told her that I could get a certification that would allow me to work with a nice income overseas.
This certification was a $%^h! It was designed to be 18 mos long and the text alone was close to 5,000 pages. It was understood that I would dedicate my Saturdays to it. Ok, thats what I did. Along the way came four separate proctored exams which would take approx 4 hrs each.
So I used my Saturdays and then after work I would need to immerse myself for 2 weeks before each test. On top of that my house was on the market and we had a two year old. STRESS
oh BTW did I mention i HATE my profession
I finally complete and pass my fourth exam on Dec 22- 16 months done. I only had my final project to complete (50-100 pages in mandated 8pt type and font)and then I would have this highly sought out international certification that would allow us to live overseas. her to quit her job and live her dream.
On Jan 7th she told me she didnt love me. She told me that I had become too distant over the last 6 mos and I was miserable during that time..........
I asked her if there was anyone else.....no she said
(Now I know thats a lie)
Ruby, you sound like a very intelligent, educated woman so what follows- simple survival tips- will prob be WAY beneath you....but ill go anyway.
Set alarm for same time everyday Eat GOOD breakfast Set your daily goal during breakfast Do the dreadful things first What is your reward for achieving your daily goal? Stop drinking get a bedtime- stick to it
Your person has gone through an amazing amount of stress both mentally and physically......The running that you are doing is AWESOME but your tired- and if you weren't you wouldn't be human.
Get on a schedule now and stick to it. I understand "life happens" but if you cant control it more often then not you are out of control and have big problems.
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Ruby, I'm wishing you a great rest tonight. I have a feeling you will sleep very well and feel much better tomorrow!
So, not so great news about Boston. I'll be working that day. Sorry. But GTO will be there and once we have your contact info, it'll be a lot easier to schedule another trip in Sept or October. Deal?
I will miss you but yes we will schedule again. Looking forward to seeing Turtle and Positivespin though
I will sleep tomorrow lol, project due....
Update:
LaBug: Under the bus means that he is willing to throw our relationship away whenever it seems convenient. So, if he feels he wants to be with XGF, and loves her, then no contact with me. Fight with her? Petty getting back contact with me. Case in point, he asked to be friends on FB with me after they broke up. I allowed it. Turns out he was just doing it to make her jealous...seriously?? Are you four? Wondered why he stopped liking and commenting on my posts....under the bus. I usually take things at face value, but find that H lies so much, that I cannot
PS- okay, your story s*cks You win.....) Joking aside I am looking forward to meeting you and thank you for schedule advice. Is actually the same advice therapist gave H a couple weeks ago to get over XGF lol. I like H's therapist, have you considered a new career PS?
BF- ya, I can stay with friends and it is a trigger....
PM- I know it is basically the no sleep for sure and Tori is right. Just need one good night
My date went well. Was freaking nervous, talked a LOT!! LOL. Gonna try a second one...:)
Tell us more about the date! If you are gonna try a second one the first one must have went pretty well!
Having someone new giving you positive attention is thrilling and does a lot for one's self esteem. I know my text w cute D dad makes me a little giddy!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
LOL!! Turtle, I knew you would pick up on that....First one went well, but I had to leave after an hour. I have a big project due, so I told him (It's not you, it's me...) We hit it off, but he seems more interested in me at this point. I will just ask him and see if he minds taking it slow. I Told him it's been twenty years lol, I am kinda nervous and out of practice....So we will have picnic for next date
First, I apologize for dumping earlier...The combination of fatigue, stress, studying, feeling overwhelmed at times and juggling everything struck a nerve. I guess what I wanted to say is this.....
Is all this work going towards something you love? - One word answer reply pls
As for dating- YOU GO GIRL! It intimidates the f out of me right now. I cant remember the last person I kissed before my wife- geesh its been like 18 years.
But one hour sounds PERFECT- even if you didnt have a project. Too short is MUCH better then too long.......(I do remember that)
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
